Most would never guess the biggest secrets to verbal communication … learning to listen and observe. This means our biggest hindrance is often our own mouths … from overuse!
Observe
This week, we look once more at techniques to help us better observe and listen to people around us.
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We can implement certain “attraction laws” into place that will better enable deeper friendships. Last week, we discussed one such law … the law of similarity.
Attraction Laws
This week, we look into the various attraction laws and how to practically implement them into our lives.
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There are certain “laws of attraction” that we can invoke as tools to help us establish friendships. One of these is the “law of similarity.”
Law of Similarity
In a culture that often idolizes diversity, it is the commonality that often builds the strongest relationships. What is the “law of similarity” and how can we use it effectively?
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We continue talking through the “Golden Rule of Friendship.” How does this rule apply to compliments? Do compliments help?
Compliments
Complimenting other people (especially new friends) can be a powerful tool. But … you must be careful and not abuse this technique.
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The more you can let go of your ego, the better your friendships will be. Making your conversations more about the other person (and less about you), the more people will love being around you. This is referred to as the “Golden Rule of Friendship.”
Golden Rule of Friendship
This can be very difficult to do since we want people to be interested in us. But be patient … the more you make it all about them, the more they will return the favor. Using empathic statements are one way we can do this. Let’s look at a few examples of this.
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In previous weeks, we have looked are the various “friend” signals. But what about foe signals? What are some things we may do that make us appear unfriendly to other people?
Foe Signals
During every social approach, humans must assess each other’s intentions. Facial expressions provide cues to assist in these assessments via associations with emotion, the likelihood of affiliation, and personality. Sure, you might have felt genuine when saying, “I’d love to go to the movies!” But the creased brow, quizzical eyes, tight lips, and crossed arms tell a very different story.
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This is a special announcement for the podcast. Just a quick update on what has been happening and making sure everything is working properly in my system.
hear
I have had numerous problems of late with the site … from malware shutdowns … to podcasts not showing up … to Bluehost crashing … I think everything is finally fixed. Here is an update on things.
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Trust … People size you up in seconds, but what exactly are they evaluating? Harvard Business School professor Amy Cuddy has been studying first impressions alongside fellow psychologists Susan Fiske and Peter Glick for more than 15 years, and has discovered patterns in these interactions.
Trust
In her new book, “Presence,” Cuddy says people quickly answer two questions when they first meet you:
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It’s well known that good communication is the foundation of any successful relationship, be it personal or professional. It’s important to recognize, though, that it’s our nonverbal communication—our facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, posture, and tone of voice—that speak the loudest.
NonVerbal Friend Signals
The ability to understand and use nonverbal communication, or body language, is a powerful tool that can help you connect with others, express what you really mean, and build better relationships.
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We continue our study on “The Like Switch” by Jack Schafer and Marvin Karlins. This week we look at the Friend vs Foe continuum as discussed in Chp 1.
Friend or Foe
What is the “urban scowl”? And how might our nonverbal facial expressions be causing people to see us as undesirable or worse a foe in life?
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