#009 – Just Say No: Freedom from Criticism, Manipulation, Conflict, and Guilt [Podcast]

No is a word we have dreaded since we were babies.  Two simple letters that have great power if used wisely.  So, why do so many of us have a hard time learning to say no?

Just Say No

Just Say No

We are surrounded by a world that loves to criticize us, to manipulate us, to control us.  How can we learn to say no?  How can we learn to live free of guilt and manipulation?

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“Just Say No” Show Notes

In this episode, I share on the following topics:

  • Your most powerful “No” is a well-defined “Yes” (2:50)
  • The latest research on conflict management (8:15)
  • Getting beyond being a “People Pleaser” (15:42)
  • 10 Action Steps to learn to say “No” and break free from manipulation, conflict, criticism, and guilt (25:30)
      1. Start small (25:43)
      2. Say No (26:58)
      3. Say Yes (28:04)
      4. Be simple and direct (28:44)
      5. Expect some resistance if people are used to pushing you around (30:00)
      6. Pick your battles (30:48)
      7. Quit worrying about hurting someone’s feelings (33:10)
      8. Be persistent (34:57)
      9. Stay cool and keep your emotions in check (35:32)
      10. Emergency tools to use in worse case situations (38:17 … this part is a bit long as I discuss 4 techniques to deal with conflict and manipulation)

“Just Say No” Episode Resources

In this episode I mentioned several resources, including:

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